For many, family gatherings at Thanksgiving aren’t as pleasant as they could be. While most of us enjoy getting together to gobble down (pardon the pun) some turkey and dressing, sometimes feelings of love, anxiety, confusion and dread come to the table, too.

Why in the world would a family get-together at Thanksgiving cause consternation, angst or dread instead of joy? Are not our families the harbor in the storm? Our safe refuge? Sadly, not always.